God Has Not Forgotten You: When Life Is Turned Upside Down

Scriptures: Hebrews 13:5, Deuteronomy 31:8, Psalms 91:15-16, Matthew 28:20

You Are Not Alone

On the morning of October 29, 2012, hundreds of thousands of people in portions of the Caribbean, the mid-Atlantic, and northeastern United States faced their worst nightmare—“Superstorm Sandy.” This post-tropical cyclone with hurricane-force winds and its unusual merge with a frontal system affected 24 states. Families everywhere, especially in hard-hit New Jersey and New York, were jolted out of normalcy and the comfort and security of the homes and communities they once knew, thrust suddenly and unwillingly into the darkness and despair of loss. 

Maybe today you are in the midst of unspeakable sorrow due to the loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, a frightening medical diagnosis, or some other discouraging life challenge. Remember this–God is with you. Even if you do not feel near to Him, God is there. He promises to never leave you alone; therefore, wherever you are, God is. He was with you before, is with you now, and will be with you after the challenges you are currently facing. He will never lose sight of you or your suffering. Even as you ponder how you will make it through this, God is there…loving you beyond understanding, holding you up, and making a way where it seems there is no way. Reach out to Him today; He is a very present help in times of trouble (see Psalm 46:1). 

Taking back your life

1. Psalm 139:7-10 (NLT) says, “I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence! If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the grave, you are there. If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans, even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me.” What assurance can you find in these verses of Scripture when you feel God has forgotten you? 
2. In Psalm 23, David pictured the Lord as the Great Shepherd who provides for and protects His sheep (His children). In verse 4, he said, “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” A shepherd uses his rod to protect his sheep (by using it to beat off wild beasts), and he uses his staff to guide them. What comfort can you find in knowing that God will protect and guide you during this difficult time? 
3. In addition to needing God’s presence in our lives, we also need each other. Talk with a family member or friend about the way you are feeling, so that you can share each other’s burdens and not feel so alone. 

Scriptures: Psalms 34:15, Psalms 41:1, Psalms 121:3, Psalms 139:7-12, Psalms 139:17-18

He Sees and Understands Your Pain

God knows in great detail the devastation caused by tragedy, loss, or difficult circumstances. He understands the pain and sorrow associated with grief and loss. He understands because He is all-knowing. Furthermore, Jesus endured suffering (see Isaiah 53) and experienced pain, even the pain of grief and loss (see John 11:32-35). He knows you are hurting. He sees your pain and hears the cries of your heart. Remember, you are not alone in your suffering; He is with you always. 

God cares very deeply about you and is attentive to every detail of your life—even those things that burden your heart. First Peter 5:7 says you should cast “all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” Isn’t it comforting to know that God Almighty cares about you? It may seem like your life has been shaken to the core, but His love for you is never shaken. “‘For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,’ says the Lord, who has compassion on you” (Isaiah 54:10). 

No matter how bad things may seem, God is in control. Nothing happens without His knowledge. This trial did not take Him by surprise. Matthew 10:29-31 (TLB) says, “Not one sparrow (What do they cost? Two for a penny?) can fall to the ground without your Father knowing it…So don’t worry! You are more valuable to him than many sparrows.” If God’s eye is on the sparrow, He’s most certainly watching you. Amid sadness and uncertainty, His hand is there to guide you; His strength is there to support you. You are never out of His reach. 

Taking back your life

1. Look again at Isaiah 54:10. How does this Scripture apply to you and help to make your current circumstances bearable? 
2. The writer of Psalm 121 said this of God in verse 8 (TLB): “He keeps his eye upon you as you come and go and always guards you.” How does it feel to know that God keeps watch over you and is attentive to every detail of your life? 
3. In Psalm 138:8 (TLB), the writer, offering thanksgiving and praise to God, said confidently, “The Lord will work out his plans for my life—for your loving-kindness, Lord, continues forever.” Take a few moments to express to God your confidence in Him to work out His plans for your life. 

Scriptures: Psalms 34:17, 2 Kings 20:5, Psalms 34:6, 1 Peter 5:7

Pouring Out Your Heart

One of the most difficult things we can face in life is loss. Whether the loss of your job, home, health, a loved one, or anything held dear, the pain of loss can be very difficult.. At times it may even seem unbearable. Because God made us with feelings, there are many other difficult emotions we may experience when grieving or facing tough circumstances. We can feel hopeless, frustrated, confused, anxious, scared, and even angry. Recognizing these emotions, and releasing them in healthy ways, is extremely important in the journey toward healing and wellness. Alternatively, ignoring or suppressing them can be destructive, even crippling. 

What emotions do you feel in your heart? Anxiety, heartache, and pain are undoubtedly among them. You may be hurting so badly that all you want to do is cry. And that’s okay. Even Jesus, who was so deeply moved because of the sorrow resulting from death, wept (see John 11:32-35). 

Sure, it’s good to be strong in such challenging circumstances, but it is also important to acknowledge the emotions that pain, suffering, and loss can bring. Think about it. How can your heart truly heal if you don’t acknowledge that you’re hurting? So take the first step. Get alone with God and tell Him honestly how badly you are hurting. Cry if you want to. Cry out to Him, “God, help me!” You will find that as you pour out your heart to the Lord, you’ll begin to feel the burdens of your soul roll away. 

Taking back your life

1. In Psalm 56:8 (TLB), David said of God, “You have seen me tossing and turning through the night. You have collected all my tears and preserved them in your bottle! You have recorded every one in your book.” How does it make you feel to know how important your tears are to God? 
2. Consider what you have lost in this crisis. As you pour out your heart and acknowledge the emotions you are working through, you can find comfort in the following Scripture passages for: 

The death of a loved one: Matthew 5:4; Psalm 116:15; 1 Thessalonians 4:13-14; Revelation 21:4 

Facing illness: Psalm 103:3; Isaiah 53:5; Jeremiah 17:14; James 5:14-15 

The loss of your job, home, business, or other things you held dear: Nahum 1:7; Psalm 138:7; Isaiah 43:2 

Financial troubles: Psalm 34:10; Matthew 6:31-33; Philippians 4:19 

The fear of all you have yet to deal with: Psalm 91:1, 4-7; Proverbs 3:25-26; Isaiah 41:10 

The overwhelming disruption and destruction caused by difficult circumstances: Isaiah 58:12

Scriptures: Isaiah 42:2-3, Psalms 9:9-10, Psalms 37:40, Isaiah 26:3

Passing Through Deep Waters

As people fought for their lives during Hurricane Katrina in 2005, and more recently, Hurricane Helene in 2024, these storms forced people to literally pass through floodwaters left by the devastation. It had to be a frightening experience to wade, and in some areas, swim, through the murky, contaminated waters to save family members, neighbors, strangers, and even family pets. But amid fear, desperation, and uncertainty, many passed through the deep waters courageously and were eventually rescued and taken to safety. 

As you pass through the deep waters of your circumstances, you may wonder, “Who can rescue me from this?” Be encouraged! Even in the deepest of waters, God promises to be with the one who trusts in Him. He alone can truly rescue you and keep you from drowning, just as Jesus rescued Peter when He invited him to walk on water in a storm (see Matthew 14:22-33). At first, Peter trusted Jesus and joined Him on the water, but as soon as he began to focus on the storm and give in to the fear of it, he began to sink. Still, when he cried out, “Lord, save me!” (Matthew 14:30), Jesus stretched out His hand and rescued Peter. 

He can rescue you too. All you need do is take a deep breath of faith, reach out, and take hold of the mighty hand of God. Keep your eyes on Him and do not fear the deep, murky waters of uncertainty surrounding you. Though the way seems difficult and impossible, you can be confident in this: “Nothing will be impossible with God” (Luke 1:37). 

Taking back your life

1. Jeremiah 32:17 says, “Ah, Lord God! It is you who has made the heavens and the earth by your great power and by your outstretched arm! Nothing is too hard for you.” What encouragement can you find in this Scripture when your situation seems too difficult? 
2. Write down everything that seems impossible about your current situation. Next to each item write, “Nothing will be impossible with God” (Luke 1:37). Spend a few minutes in prayer about the items on your list, and be sure to thank God that none of those things are too big or too hard for Him to handle. 
3. Commit Luke 1:37 to memory. Every time your situation seems too difficult or impossible, speak it to yourself as a reminder that God can handle whatever is troubling you. As opportunities arise, you can encourage others using this verse as well. 

Scriptures: Psalms 73:26, Psalms 31:24, Romans 15:13, Ephesians 3:20-21

Finding Hope in God

Take from a man his wealth, and you hinder him; take from him his purpose, and you slow him down. But take from man his hope, and you stop him. He can go on without wealth, and even without purpose, for a while. But he will not go on without hope. 

— C. Neil Strait 

As you think about the challenges you are facing and how they are affecting your everyday life, you may feel completely discouraged. The reality of what you are facing can seem so overwhelming, that you might feel like giving up. But don’t give up. The circumstances may be too difficult in human terms, but in Christ, there is always hope. “For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11 TLB). 

When you consider all you are facing, ask yourself, “Is there anything too hard for God?” (See Jeremiah 32:17). Absolutely nothing! No matter what is going on in your life, you can trust that He is in control and is working everything out for your good (see Romans 8:28). When you wake up in the morning and wonder how you will face the day, God is working it out. When you wonder how you can get through and overcome a difficult season, God is working it out. And when you lie down at night, wondering how you will face the challenges of tomorrow, whatever they may be, God is already working it out. God knows intimately the concerns of your heart (see Psalm 139:1-3) and can provide all the peace, strength, and courage you need. So don’t give up! Confidently hope in Him. Hope…and persevere. 

Taking back your life

1. Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” What hope does this Scripture give you amid tragedy, loss, or uncertainty? 
2. Discuss as a family (or with a friend) how God has worked things out for your good in past trials. 
3. Pray with someone else who shares your sorrow. Take turns praying for one another that God will encourage your hearts and give you hope. 

Scriptures: Psalms 46:1, 2 Samuel 22:2-3, Psalms 61:3-4, Psalms 91, Isaiah 43:19, Philippians 4:19

A Constant Place of Refuge

In the wake of Hurricane Katrina, hundreds of thousands of Gulf Coast residents found themselves taking refuge in shelters all over the United States. Three weeks later, Hurricane Rita cut a new path of destruction through the Gulf Coast, forcing those who found refuge in Houston and other areas near the coast to participate in yet another evacuation. Then on the heels of Rita came wildfires in Southern California, an earthquake in Pakistan, and mudslides in Guatemala, displacing even more families. 2005 was a year of tragedy and devastation. 

If you are facing devastating circumstances or any kind of loss and are deeply afraid of what could happen, you may feel like running for shelter…a place to hide. 

There is a place where anyone facing tragedy can go—a place that provides our spirits with never-ending shelter from danger and offers powerful strength to weather any trial life may bring our way. That place is in God. In Psalm 32:7, David said this of God: “You are a hiding place for me; you preserve me from trouble; you surround me with shouts of deliverance.” 

Though life is sometimes difficult and painful, when we take shelter in Him, His help is always ready and has been proven time and time again. In Psalm 62:7-8 (TLB), David wrote, “He is my refuge, a Rock where no enemy can reach me. O my people, trust him all the time. Pour out your longings before him, for he can help!” Like David, you can take shelter in His protective presence. There you will find peace for today, strength for tomorrow, and hope for a brighter future. 

Taking back your life

1. In Psalm 57:1-2, David prayed, “Be merciful to me, O God, be merciful to me, for in you my soul takes refuge; in the shadow of your wings I will take refuge, till the storms of destruction pass by. I cry out to God Most High, to God who fulfills his purpose for me.” How can you use or apply this prayer to your circumstances today? 
2. How does it feel to know that you can find permanent shelter in God, where everything you need (peace, joy, strength, protection, hope, etc.) is provided? 
3. Read Isaiah 43:19 and Philippians 4:19. What encouragement can you find in these Scriptures if you are facing the loss of your home, job, or business?

Scriptures: Psalms 34:4, Psalms 34:6, Psalms 61:1-4, Psalms 138:3, 1 John 5:14-15

Tapping Into the Power of Prayer

Throughout the Bible, God makes it clear that our prayers are very important to Him. He loves for us to talk with Him, just as we would our closest friend, and promises to be there for us at all times. He says, “Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me. When you seek me with all your heart” (Jeremiah 29:12-13). 

He wants you to tell Him about your burdens and to give Him all your cares so He can bring hope to your heart, peace to your soul, and strength to your life (see 1 Peter 5:7). But even when you’re at a loss for words and don’t know what to pray, the Holy Spirit speaks on your behalf (see Romans 8:26). Yet God is not only interested in your struggles. He wants you to talk with Him about everything, from your smallest victories to your greatest fears, and all things in between. 

Isn’t it good to know that through Christ you have a direct line to God? He is available to talk to you anytime, day or night. You can talk to Him right now. Tell Him how you’re feeling. Tell Him about your fears and your concerns. Talk to Him about your anger and your pain. Tell Him how you love Him and need Him. He hears your weeping, your pleas, and your requests. Prayer moves God. And when He moves in your life, you will feel His presence, experience His peace, and draw from His strength in ways you never thought possible! 

Taking back your life

1. Hebrews 4:16 says, “Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” God invites us to spend time in His presence to communicate with Him. Will you accept His invitation? 
2. In 1 Thessalonians 5:17, we are told to “pray without ceasing.” How can you stay in constant communication with God? Why is this communication so important? 
3. Start a prayer journal today. You don’t have to use a fancy journal. Any notebook you can find will do. Use the journal to write down your feelings, emotions, and struggles as if you are writing letters to God. List your specific requests at the end of each page, and as God answers your prayers, be sure to offer your heartfelt praise and thanksgiving for His goodness, and write down the date and how He answered. 

Scriptures: Romans 4:20-22, Psalms 55:22, Psalms 62:8, Isaiah 12:2

Trusting God Completely

Have you ever noticed the depth of a little child’s trust? Maybe you’ve seen it with your own child or observed another child trust his parents without thought or doubt. For instance, when a child who doesn’t know how to swim stands at the edge of a pool, and his dad, in the water with hands lifted, says to the child, “Jump, I’ll catch you,” the child jumps without a thought, worry, or care. His actions say to his father, “I trust you.” This was the level of faith and trust Abraham had in God, and why his faith was counted to him as righteousness (see key Scriptures above). But if in the same scenario, the child appears to be worried and refuses to jump into his father’s arms, he is struggling with fear and doubt. It is safe to say that this father may have proven himself to be untrustworthy. 

But God is not a man that He should lie or deceive or change His mind. He does not have limitations or possess human failings. God never fails. He is completely trustworthy. Unlike an earthly father, your heavenly Father never makes mistakes. No matter how grim or intimidating your situation may seem, He is in control and you can trust that He will guide you safely through. 

Referring to His sheep, Jesus said, “My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all, and no one is able to snatch them out of the Father’s hand. I and the Father are one” (John 10:29-30). Is Jesus your Shepherd? Then you are safe in God’s hands. Be like a little child or like Abraham; trust without fear or doubt. 

Taking back your life

1. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” In what areas do you need to stop leaning on your own understanding and trust God instead? 
2. Once you identify the areas in which you need to trust God more, give those areas to Him in prayer, one by one. A sure way to tell if you have truly given a concern to Him and are trusting Him to handle it is if you are no longer burdened with fear, worry, or doubt regarding that concern. 
3. Why not add those concerns or issues to your prayer journal? Be sure to write down the date you entered your concerns and leave enough empty space so you can come back to that page and write down the ways in which God helped you to resolve or overcome each one. 

Scriptures: Isaiah 26:3, Psalms 29:11, John 16:33, Philippians 4:4-9

Experiencing His Peace

While traveling by boat on the Sea of Galilee, Jesus and His disciples encountered a violent storm. The waves were crashing over the boat so much it was beginning to fill with water. Nevertheless, Jesus was at peace. He was fast asleep. But the disciples, seeing the storm, became overwhelmed. They woke Jesus up, saying, “‘Teacher, do you not care that we are perishing?’ And he awoke and rebuked the wind and said to the sea, ‘Peace! Be still!’ And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm. He said to them, ‘Why are you so afraid? Have you still no faith?’” (Mark 4:38-40). He was really asking, “Why are you afraid? Don’t you know who’s in the boat with you?” 

When crises or tragedy hits, it’s easy to look at the bigness of our circumstances and become overwhelmed. But like the disciples, focusing on the size of our circumstances can keep us from seeing the bigness of our God and His ability to calm the storm. The strongest of storms are no match for the power of God. Isn’t it encouraging to know that Jesus is in the boat with you as you navigate the rough waters of life’s storms? He’s with you right now. You are safe and secure in His hands. 

What’s more, He promised you His peace. He said, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid” (John 14:27). Amid this difficult season in your life, you can experience the peace of God—a peace that rises above our human understanding (see Philippians 4:7). So, resist the temptation to worry, and allow His peace to comfort you. 

Taking back your life

1. Philippians 4:6-7 tells us, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Therefore, challenge yourself not to worry about anything, but instead pray about everything. Take a few minutes right now to tell God what you’re worried about. Tell Him what your needs are. Then thank Him in advance for meeting those needs. And allow His peace to keep you in these difficult times. 
2. How can experiencing God’s peace in the midst of all you are facing help you to better work through your situation and all you are facing? 
3. Discuss your feelings of being worried, anxious, or distressed with your spouse, a close friend, or a relative, and then pray together for God’s peace. Make a commitment to hold each other accountable to not worry about anything, but to instead pray about everything, so you can continually experience the peace of God during this difficult time. 

Scriptures: Psalms 31:9-10, Psalms 34:18, Proverbs 13:12, John 16:33

Reaching Out for Help

Facing a hard season in life can be a traumatic experience. You can feel as if your life has been shattered—that nothing will ever be the same; that peace and joy could never again be possible. You may battle powerful feelings of shock, hurt, confusion, fear, worry, and even anger. This is a normal and necessary response to tragedy and loss and part of the process toward healing. But for some, grief can become complicated, and if left unchecked can turn into depression. One of the warning signs is when a person finds it too difficult to face or even make it through the day. That’s when you know they are not coping well. 

How about you? How are you coping? Are you feeling down? Having trouble sleeping? Lashing out in anger? Withdrawing from family and friends? Any or all of these symptoms may be a normal first step in the healing process for you. But if you are having difficulty moving beyond this step, pastoral or professional counseling may be necessary to move forward. Otherwise, you may begin to respond in unhealthy ways that can have lifelong effects, such as becoming bitter, giving up on life, turning to drugs or alcohol, or even considering suicide. 

Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Your family and friends are there for encouragement and support. Start by setting up some time with a pastor or counselor to help guide you toward wellness (even if by phone or online video meetings). Above all, don’t give up! With God’s help and your willingness, you can make it. 

Taking back your life

1. Does it seem as if you just can’t be comforted or relieved from your despair? If so, pray to God and tell Him what you need. Be completely honest about the way you are feeling and ask Him to guide you in finding the help you need. But don’t stop there. Tell someone you trust that you need help to overcome your grief. Perhaps God will use that person to guide you to a pastor or godly counselor who can help. 
2. Be sure to talk to a doctor about any physical symptoms (severe headaches, dizziness, chest pain, racing heart, difficulty sleeping, etc.) that you may be experiencing as a result of this tragedy and the stress related to it. It is important to care for your physical body as you journey toward complete wellness. 
3. Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” What encouragement does this Scripture give you as you think about the journey to wellness that is before you? 

Scriptures: Isaiah 40:29, Isaiah 41:10, Habakkuk 3:19, Ephesians 3:16

Receiving His Strength

It takes a great deal of strength to face the devastating effects tragedy and loss can have on your life. The weight of all you are facing not only weakens your heart, but also your body. It may take all the strength you have to take care of your physical needs—such as eating, grooming, and interacting with others—let alone dealing with job responsibilities, financial troubles, and the many decisions needing to be made about an uncertain future. 

But God has not called you to face this season in your own strength. In your own strength you can lose heart and become discouraged. But in your weakness, you can find strength in Him, just as Paul did when he asked the Lord to heal him of a physical condition, and God said no. God did, however, promise to be with Paul: “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9). Likewise, no matter how challenging things get or how weary you become, He is with you and you can rely on His all-powerful strength to get you through. He never grows weary (see Isaiah 40:28). 

If you are carrying a burden that seems too heavy to bear, tell Him so. Then ask Him to show His strength in your time of weakness. Isaiah 40:31 says, “But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagle’s; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” Receive His strength today! He can give you strength of mind, body, spirit, and all the power you need to rise above your circumstances and overcome! 

Taking back your life

1. Look again at Isaiah 40:31 (above). What encouragement does this verse give you in your weariness? How can you apply this verse to your life? 
2. Talk with your spouse, a close friend, or a relative about your weariness and your need for God to strengthen you. Pray together (or alone) and ask God to strengthen your mind, body, and spirit with His strength. 
3. God also uses others to encourage and support us in times of need. If you find that getting out of bed, handling everyday responsibilities, or even thinking clearly is too difficult, ask someone you trust to help you find a counselor to assist you with the healing process. Allow others in your household or a close friend to help you with grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, and caring for the children until you begin to feel stronger. 

Scriptures: Proverbs 29:23, Psalms 72:12-14, Proverbs 11:2, Galatians 6:2

Turning Aside Pride

Have you heard the biblical story of the Good Samaritan? In that story, the Samaritan, unlike others who had opportunity, demonstrated compassion for a man who had become the victim of a vicious attack by robbers. The Good Samaritan bandaged up the man’s wounds, brought him to an inn, and took care of him (see Luke 10:30-35). But what about the man he helped? What if this man, who had been left for dead, refused the help of the Good Samaritan because of pride? Where might his pride have left him? Alone? Dying on the side of the road? Wouldn’t he have missed out on this provision from God? 

We all experience difficult times. They’re a part of life. And when those times come, and we’re hurting, there are people who will come alongside us to help in any way possible to ease the pain. It is God at work through the kindness and generosity of others—like the Good Samaritan. “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father” (James 1:17). Still, you might be thinking, “But I don’t want people to think I’m poor! I had a job before all of this!” Or, “I don’t want people feeling sorry for me or think that I’m weak!” Though this kind of pride is natural, it is wrong–“for God gives special blessings to those who are humble, but sets himself against those who are proud” (1 Peter 5:5TLB). 

Don’t allow pride to keep you from accepting kindness from others. That’s what the Christian community is all about—helping, encouraging, and building up one another. So turn aside pride today. “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you” (James 4:10). 

Taking back your life

1. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 says, “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” In what ways have people encouraged you or built you up during this difficult time? 
2. If you have received help from others with a bitter heart because of pride, ask God’s forgiveness. Then ask Him to give you a humble heart and an attitude of gratitude for the wonderful ways in which He has met your needs through the generosity of others. 
3. Make a special effort today to tell someone “thank you” when they share God’s gift of kindness and goodwill with you. You can say it to the friend who calls to check on you, the delivery person who delivered the hot meal you ordered, the people who come by to drop off groceries, or the friends who have expressed their condolences. It’s a great way to bless them as they seek to bless you. 

Scriptures: Ephesians 4:26-27, Psalms 37:8, Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:8

Resolve Feelings of Anger

Challenging times can bring about many emotions in the hurting heart. One of those emotions is anger. When suffering or facing tough circumstances there may be many feelings at the root of your anger. You may feel betrayed by God, and wonder why He allows evil in the world. You may question, “If God loves me, why did He allow this to happen? Why won’t He take away the pain?” These and other questions can evoke anger toward God. Your anger may also stem from feelings of grief as a result of loss, or from insecurity as you face major, unexpected life changes and an unclear future. 

Though anger is a natural, human emotion and a normal part of the journey toward healing, left unchecked, anger can be a dangerous emotion that may lead to sin such as resentment. If not resolved, anger can give the enemy an opportunity to destroy your hope, steal your peace, poison your heart with bitterness, damage relationships, and keep you from moving forward. 

You can face and resolve your anger by first being honest with yourself and with God about what you are feeling. He is big enough to handle your anger and to help you resolve it. Talk to Him about your doubts and fears and what is causing rage in your heart. He will not turn His back on you. Tell Him, “God, I am so angry!” Then, give your angry feelings to the Lord and trust Him to replace those feelings with peace, forgiveness, and strength. Freedom from unchecked anger is the freedom to heal. 

Taking back your life

1. Talk with someone who would be comfortable listening to you vent your anger. Discuss the feelings that may be at the root of this emotion. Identifying these feelings and expressing them verbally will help you to work through your anger. 
2. Hebrews 10:30 says, “For we know him who said, ‘Vengeance is mine; I will repay.’ And again, ‘The Lord will judge his people.’” How can you apply this Scripture to your feelings about those who let you down? 
3. If you have harbored anger in your heart, confess this anger to God, and if applicable and possible, to the one who has hurt or offended you. Then release your anger by forgiving them. Not only is forgiveness a requirement to be forgiven (Matthew 6:14), but resolving your anger and forgiving those who have hurt you will free your heart to truly heal. Have you, in anger, hurt or offended your spouse, child, or someone else during this difficult time? If so, repent by confessing this to God and that person, and ask for forgiveness. Then prove your repentance and sincerity by controlling your anger (see Acts 26:20). 

Scriptures: Hebrews 4:16, Isaiah 55:8-9, Jeremiah 33:3, James 1:5

Asking the Hard Questions

When life got him down, Asaph, one of King David’s key men, cried out to God and asked Him some hard questions. He asked, “Will the Lord spurn forever, and never again be favorable? Has his steadfast love forever ceased? Are his promises at an end for all time? Has God forgotten to be gracious? Has he in anger shut up his compassion?” (Psalm 77:7-9). Asaph wasn’t the only man in the Bible to ask God hard questions. 

In the book of Job, we find that in his suffering Job asked hard questions. After losing his family and everything he had, he argued his case before God. And even when God’s answers were not what he expected, he never lost faith. 

Tragedy can challenge our faith and raise many questions. Questions like: Why is this happening? Where is God when it hurts? Why doesn’t He do something? Where is the protection He promised? God isn’t offended when we ask questions in our despair. He wants us to come to Him when we’re confused. However, like Job, we must learn to resist being critical of God, keeping in mind that He is the Supreme Ruler, the Most High, all-knowing, and in control of all things, including our lives (see Job 38:2) 

So bring your heartfelt questions to God and ask Him to help you understand. But be prepared to accept His answers, even if they’re not what you expect to hear (see Job 38-41). And whatever you don’t understand, acknowledge His authority, knowing that the God who created the heavens and the Earth loves you beyond comprehension and can give you mercy and “grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16). 

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1. What are some of the hard questions you want to ask God about your current circumstances? Ask those questions in prayer. What has God revealed to you? 
2. On a piece of paper, write down some of the questions you feel are still unanswered. Then after truly giving those unanswered questions over to God in prayer, tear the paper up and throw it away as a symbol of your trust in Him with all you don’t understand. 
3. Sometimes in asking God the hard questions, like Job, we can become critical of His dealings with us. In Job 38-41, God made it clear why a creature (man) should never become a critic of the Creator. Through a series of questions, God showed Job his (man’s) ignorance as compared with God’s greatness. This opened Job’s eyes to God’s ultimate authority, and he repented of his pride and rebellion. If you have criticized God’s dealings with you and your resulting circumstances, ask Him to forgive you. Then acknowledge that He is in full control of your life and everything He allows you to experience. Thank Him for loving you, for providing all you need during this difficult season, and for accomplishing His purposes in you through it all. 

Scriptures: 1 Thessalonians 5:18, Psalms 100:4, Psalms 103:1-5, 1 Corinthians 15:57

Giving Thanks In Everything

When reading this Scripture, you may question, “How can I possibly be thankful in the midst of such pain and uncertainty? It feels like life has been shattered into a million pieces and I’m not even sure what tomorrow will bring.” David said in Psalm 34:1, “I will bless the Lord at all times; his praise shall continually be in my mouth.” The phrase “at all times” means in all circumstances, no matter what. But God isn’t instructing us to be thankful for difficult circumstances. He wants us to be thankful in them, knowing that He is faithful and able to help us overcome. When we are thankful in difficult times, our attitude says to Him, “I trust You. I know You can handle this.” He in turn blesses us with peace of mind, strength of spirit, and the power to make it through. 

We cannot know all that God has planned to do in life’s storms, but we can be thankful that He promises to be with us and that the outcome will be for our good. He always keeps His word. “For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven and do not return there but water the earth, . . . so shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it” (Isaiah 55:10-11). 

Remember that God is a deliverer. He delivered His people in the past, and He will deliver you out of all your troubles (see Psalm 34:6). Additionally, He will supply all your needs (see Philippians 4:19). And when you rely on Him, He will not fail you (see Hebrews 13:5). Understanding this enables you to give thanks in every circumstance. 

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1. Why does God instruct His children to be thankful in everything and every circumstance? 
2. Discuss with your family or a friend those things that you can be thankful for during difficult circumstances. For instance, you might thank Him for His presence in your life, for loving you, protecting you, providing for you, etc. 
3. Spend some time together (or alone) in prayer, thanking God for the blessings in your life amid tragedy and loss. Make this the beginning of a daily habit, even as you continue to face this difficult trial.

Scriptures: Hebrews 12:1, Zechariah 4:6, John 8:32, John 8:36, Revelation 12:11

Laying Aside Every Weight

When running a marathon, or any other competitive race, runners normally wear sleek uniforms and lightweight shoes designed to take advantage of aerodynamics and quicken their pace. They also endure strenuous physical training to help them reach their maximum potential and their goal of finishing—or better yet, winning—the races set before them. But can you imagine a world-class runner competing in a race with weights attached to his wrists and ankles? It would be safe to say that he wouldn’t have a chance at winning. He might not even make it to the finish line. 

First Corinthians 9:24 says, “Do you not know that in a race all the runners compete, but only one receives the prize? So run that you may obtain it.” Consider your current challenges. Think of them as the race that is set before you. Are you spiritually fit to run? Or is depression, fear, anger, worry, or doubt weighing you down? Rather than allow these to hinder you, why not view them as obstacles or hurdles on a track? 

Start your training by talking to God about everything that is holding you back and by consuming the right spiritual food—the Word of God. Fill up on His promises; draw from His strength. Then trust Him to help you leap over every hurdle you face. With God’s help, you can overcome your greatest obstacles as you push toward the finish line of the current circumstances. Lay aside every weight, therefore, and run to win! 

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1. Psalm 121:1-3 says, “I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth. He will not let your foot be moved.” What encouragement can you find in this Scripture for overcoming your greatest obstacles? 
2. Make a list of those obstacles that are weighing you down, such as depression, fear, anger, worry, or doubt. God’s promises for overcoming each one can be found in the Bible. Find all the Scripture promises you can for overcoming each one. Here are some promises to get you started: 

Depression: Psalm 147:3 

Fear: 2 Timothy 1:7 

Discouragement: Philippians 1:6 

Worry: Isaiah 26:3 

Doubt: Psalm 18:30 

Confusion: Proverbs 3:5-6 

1. Look at the promises you’ve listed. Pray these and the promises listed above back to God according to your needs, and then trust Him daily to help you overcome, referring often to His promises. 

Scriptures: 2 Corinthians 10:5, Psalms 19:14, Philippians 4:6-7, Romans 12:2

Defeating Negative Thoughts

In addition to lightweight attire and physical fitness, mental fitness is equally important for an athlete to have a competitive edge. It has been said that if a runner’s head is not in the race, he will not compete well. If he thinks he will lose, he may have already lost the race before it even begins. The phrase, “Don’t beat yourself,” in reference to negative thinking, is popular among athletes of every sport. 

The same is true of any challenge we face in life. If we think we will be defeated, there’s a good chance that’s how we will feel…defeated. Sure, it’s normal to feel sorrow, pain, confusion, fear, and uncertainty during such a stressful time. But if you allow these feelings to dominate your thoughts, it can be extremely difficult to overcome, to finish the race victoriously. 

You might think, “But this is too difficult to deal with! I’m in a desperate situation. I have no money, no job, and no idea what to do or where to turn. How can I possibly start over?” Or, “I’m not strong enough, and I’m scared. I don’t think I can make it.” Don’t beat yourself! Instead, “Fix your thoughts on what is true and good and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely, and dwell on the fine, good things in others. Think about all you can praise God for and be glad about” (Philippians 4:8 TLB). And whenever a negative thought comes to mind and tries to bring you down, you can defeat it by counteracting it with a promise from God’s Word. Give yourself a competitive edge to triumph over your challenges. Dwell on the positives! 

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Practice counteracting negative thoughts with promises from God’s Word. Below are some examples: 

• This is too difficult to deal with! You can recite Jeremiah 32:17: “Ah, Lord God! It is you who have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and by your outstretched arm! Nothing is too hard for you.” 
• But I’m in an impossible situation! You can recite Mark 10:27: “Jesus looked at them and said, ‘With man it is impossible, but not with God. For all things are possible with God.’” 
• My life has been turned upside down! You can recite Romans 8:28: “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” 
• I feel so anxious and stressed out! You can recite Philippians 4:6-7: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” 
• I have no money and no job. You can recite Philippians 4:19: “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” 
• I have no idea what to do, or where to turn. You can recite Psalm 23:3: “He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.” 
• I’m not strong enough to make it through this. You can recite Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” 
• I’m afraid. You can recite Isaiah 41:10: “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” 
• I feel so alone. You can recite Hebrews 13:5: “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Or Matthew 28:20: “And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” 
• I don’t think I can make it. You can recite Philippians 1:6: “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you [me] will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” 

Scriptures: Psalms 138:3, Psalms 91, Proverbs 3:25-26, John 14:27

Conquering Your Greatest Fears

When Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego refused to worship King Nebuchadnezzar’s gods, he threatened to cast them into a furnace of blazing fire, saying, “And who is the god who will deliver you out of my hands?” (Daniel 3:15). Still, the three men refused to bow down. Filled with anger, Nebuchadnezzar gave orders to heat the furnace seven times hotter than usual. 

Imagine the fear they might have experienced at that moment. However, their faith in God conquered their fears, and in their loyalty, they were thrown into the fiery furnace. But the next thing that happened was miraculous! Instead of three, four men stood in the furnace, completely unharmed! God had sent a divine being to deliver the loyal servants, leading Nebuchadnezzar to believe in the Most High God! 

What if it were possible for you to face this trial without fear? What if despite all the stress, heartache, and tragedy you are dealing with, you could be boldly courageous and at peace? Impossible? Unrealistic? Absolutely not! The Word of God tells us in 2 Timothy 1:7: “God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” 

When tragedy turns up the heat in your life and stirs up fear in your spirit, don’t allow your faith to be shaken. Remember who is with you at all times and in all circumstances—the King of kings and Lord of lords, with all power in His hands! He’s calling you to trust and obey, to be courageous in the midst of extreme circumstances, and to have faith. In the presence of faith, fear must leave! 

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1. Having faith in God, His presence in your life, and His abilities to help you in any situation gives you the power and strength of spirit to overcome fear. Try listing your greatest fears regarding your current circumstances on paper. Then at the bottom of the page, write a personalized version of Romans 8:31-32: “What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?” How do your fears look now, knowing that God is on your side? 
2. Hebrews 13:5-6 (TLB) says, “For God has said, ‘I will never, never fail you nor forsake you.’ That is why we can say without any doubt or fear, ‘The Lord is my Helper, and I am not afraid of anything that mere man can do to me.’” What hope and encouragement can you find in this Scripture as you think about this trial and its effects on your life? 
3. Commit 2 Timothy 1:7 (above) to memory, and every time you begin to feel fearful about anything, say it aloud to yourself as a reminder that the spirit of fear is not of God and can be conquered by faith. Remember, in the presence of faith, fear has no power! 

Scriptures: Lamentations 3:21-23, Psalms 89:1, Psalms 89:2, 2 Thessalonians 3:3, Hebrews 10:23

Remembering God’s Faithfulness

Whenever we face difficult circumstances and wonder where God is, one of the first things we should do is look in the rearview mirror of our lives. What we will discover will undoubtedly give us strength for today and hope for tomorrow. What we will see is God’s faithfulness throughout our lives. We will see how He has loved us, redeemed us, forgiven us, and given us new and eternal life (see 1 John 2:25, 5:11). We will see how He has brought us through past struggles, provided for our needs, woke us up every morning, and how He continues to cover us with His love throughout each day. 

As you think about all you’re going through, or wonder how you’ll be able to pick up the pieces of your life and move forward, don’t be discouraged. God was faithful yesterday; He is faithful today; and He will be faithful tomorrow. God never changes (see Hebrews 13:8). You can always depend on Him. 

Think about it. What past challenges has God brought you through? Has He healed your hurting heart or weakened body? Has He ever delivered you from fear, worry, anger, or despair? Have you ever experienced His peace, joy, or strength? Has He ever forgiven you, blessed you, or provided for you? As you recall God’s faithfulness to help you in the past, know that you can trust Him to be faithful now and in the future. “Understand, therefore, that the Lord your God is the faithful God who for a thousand generations keeps his promises and constantly loves those who love him and who obey his commands” (Deuteronomy 7:9 TLB). He will not fail you! 

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1. Take a few minutes to look in the rearview mirror of your life. What are some things God has brought you through? What are some ways in which He has blessed your life in the past? 

2. Make it a point to remind yourself, every morning, about God’s faithfulness and compassion toward you. “His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning” (Lamentations 3:22- 23). And remind yourself of His promises to you. They are sprinkled throughout the Bible. Here are some of them, found in Psalm 103: 

He forgives all my sins. 

He heals me. 

He saves my life from destruction. 

He surrounds me with love, kindness, and compassion. 

He fills my life with good things and renews my youth like the eagle’s. 

He reveals His ways to me. 

He performs justice for me against oppression. 

He sets me free. 

He gives me His grace and mercy even though I don’t deserve it. 

3. Thank Him for His faithfulness in the past. Then express to Him your trust in His faithfulness to fulfill His promises in your life today and in the future.

Scriptures: Ephesians 3:18, Jeremiah 31:3, John 3:16, 1 John 4:10

Resting in His Love

Did you know that God loves you like no one else can? His love for you is so great it is beyond understanding. What’s more, it’s unconditional. It is not based on your appearance, your intelligence, the color of your skin, what neighborhood you live in, or whether you’re rich or poor. It’s not even based on how you live your life—what you do or don’t do, good or bad. God’s love for you is constant. It is unfailing, unwavering, and immovable; completely perfect, pure, strong, and everlasting. 

There is nothing more assuring than God’s love. It is something we can always count on, and it is sufficient for our every need, even while navigating such uncertain times. For instance, because God loves us, He will be with us always, promising never to leave nor forsake us (see Hebrews 13:5). He will show His goodness in countless ways. He will pour out His mercy on us again and again. He will protect us and provide all we need to see us through every trial until we are safely ushered into heaven to be with Him for all eternity. Isn’t that assuring? 

As you look at your circumstances in light of God’s love, you—like the apostle Paul—will be able to say with confidence, “For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39). You have His full attention because He loves you. So don’t allow stress and anxiety to rule in your heart. Choose today to rest completely in His love. 

Taking back your life

1. Why is it so important to know the extent of God’s love, especially when facing such a stressful time, tragedy, loss, or an unclear future? 
2. Romans 5:8 says, “But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” What does this verse say about the extent of God’s love? 
3. Pray and thank God for His unconditional love toward you. Let Him know how confident you are in His love and in His ability to help you through this difficult time. You might say something like this: “Lord, You love me so much. Even though my life circumstances have changed, Your love for me has not changed. Your plans for my life have not changed. Everything is right on track according to Your will. No matter what is going on around me, I will continue to praise You, trust You, and rest in Your love.” 

Scriptures: James 1:2-4, Isaiah 51:11, Psalms 31:7, 1 Peter 1:6-9

Consider It All Joy

After Hurricane Katrina, one woman who had lost everything she had in the floodwaters in New Orleans had this to say: “I may have lost everything I had, but I will never lose faith in my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ! My children lost their homes, and I don’t know where they will all go, but they all made it safely out of the storm, and for that, I am so grateful. Everything’s going to be alright.” She said this with such strength and hope, and with a smile on her face the entire time. Was she happy? Not exactly. What she was experiencing was not happiness, but joy. 

Unlike happiness, joy is not dependent on circumstances. Instead, it is a deep-down quality that is present whether a person’s circumstances are good or bad. Since joy is one of the fruits of the Spirit, it lives within the spirit of every Christian (see Galatians 5:22). This joy is our strength in difficult times. Nehemiah 8:10 says, “For the joy of the Lord is your strength.” We can experience joy knowing that God has already given us the victory (see 1 Corinthians 15:57). 

In addition, the Bible tells us that difficulties help us grow in patience and endurance, and make us strong in character. They draw us closer to the Father, causing us to be dependent on Him—the One who works through our difficulties to accomplish great things in our lives. That’s why you can “count it all joy” even in the face of tragedy. Trust His plan, stretch your faith, and let your heart be joyful with anticipation as you allow His purpose to be fulfilled in and through you. 

Taking back your life

1. Look again at Nehemiah 8:10. How can the joy that comes from God give you strength during difficult times? 
2. Pray and ask God to help you “count it all joy” as you go through this trial and allow Him to accomplish His perfect work in your life through it all. 
3. Watch in joyful anticipation as you observe how you grow and mature through this trial. Remember to keep the end in sight, knowing that the result will be for your good and God’s glory. 1 Corinthians 15:57 says, “But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.” Be sure to thank God for all the victories that come out of your suffering and to share those praise reports, as they occur, with your family members and others. 

Scriptures: Psalms 48:14, Psalms 18:30, Proverbs 3:5-6, Jeremiah 33:3

Accepting God’s Will

“In a Hindu village in India, one family turned to Christ. Shortly after their conversion their child got very ill. The Hindu neighbors said the gods had cursed the family for changing religions. Though the Christians prayed hard for the child’s healing, he died. But his funeral was such a triumphant event that the eyes of many villagers were opened through it. Their resistance to the gospel vanished, and they turned to Christ.” ** 

God answers prayer. However, what He does in response to our prayers is not always what we expect. Isaiah 55:8 says, “‘For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,’ declares the Lord.” In His sovereignty, He knows what’s best in every situation, and sometimes does the unexpected. The Indian family looked for victory to come in the form of healing but found it in the death of their child, and others came to know Christ as a result. God knows the best outcome. 

When Christ considered the horror of the suffering He would have to endure on the cross, He naturally wanted to be spared and prayed for God to “remove this cup.” But He also made it perfectly clear that He wanted God’s will, not His own, to be done and willingly submitted to it (see Luke 22:41-42). Whatever your requests, make them known to God, but leave room in your expectations for His will. Trust Him with all your heart, and with boldness of faith, pray as Christ prayed, “Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done.” 

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1. In what ways are you expecting God to answer your prayers as you navigate this difficult time in your life? Are you prepared for God to do the unexpected? Perhaps you’ve already experienced disappointment in God’s response to your prayers because it wasn’t what you expected. Share your disappointment with Him honestly and ask Him to reveal His purpose in the outcome you experienced. 
2. God’s will for us is always best because, as mentioned above, He knows the best outcome for every situation. He knew how glorious the outcome of Christ’s death would be—the forgiveness of sin and the gift of eternal life for all who believe. And even though Christ submitted to God’s will, it was a struggle because He knew it would be excruciatingly painful and difficult. Why is the prayer of Christ in the garden of Gethsemane (Luke 22:41-42) the hardest prayer to pray? What are your fears in praying this prayer? Do you trust and believe that God has your best interests at heart in everything He does? 
3. Look at Luke 22:43. Then pray and ask God to prepare you for the unexpected and to give you the strength (as He gave Jesus) to accept His will in this situation, whatever it may be, even if it is difficult and uncomfortable. Ask Him to keep you mindful that everything He does is for your good and His glory. 

Scriptures: 1 John 5:4, Psalms 121:1-2, Isaiah 51:11, 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

The Guarantee of Victory

When Jesus, the sinless Son of God, took upon Himself the sins of mankind, died on the cross for those sins, and rose from the dead, He conquered sin and death once and for all. He defeated Satan, the enemy of our souls, taking away his authority, spoiling his kingdom, and triumphing over all his power! The greatest blessing is that Jesus’ victory over death became our victory! In Christ, we too can conquer sin and death and any problem the enemy brings our way. First Corinthians 15:57 says, “But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.” If Jesus lives in you, you have victory over sin and death guaranteed. 

But what does victory look like? You probably have your own ideas of what determines a victory in your current trial. But the Bible says that God has the final word (see Proverbs 19:21). The outcome is in His hands. For instance, victory may come in the form of spiritual growth or a life lesson learned. It may come in the form of a strengthened relationship or material blessings. Or, it may come in the form of healing. Even in death, we have the victory—the gift of eternal life (See John 3:16)! “In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us” (Romans 8:37). It may not feel like it right now, but you are in a win-win situation. Begin developing a victorious attitude in your heart and mind today, and stand by faith, believing that your blessing is on the way! 

Taking back your life

1. Look again at 1 Corinthians 15:57 (above). What hope does this Scripture give you in the midst of great difficulty? How does it feel to know that, in Christ, victory is guaranteed? 
2. As you think about your current circumstances and the ways in which you’ve asked God to help, what would you consider victory? Remember to leave room in your expectations for His will to be done. 
3. Pray and ask God to help you recognize victory, big and small, so that you do not miss all that He is doing in and through you during this difficult season. Be sure to thank Him in advance for giving you the victory through Jesus Christ our Lord, and for knowing and orchestrating what is the best outcome. 

Scriptures: Psalms 139:16, Isaiah 43:19, Jeremiah 29:11, 2 Corinthians 4:8-9

Trusting God’s Plan for Your Life

Before this life storm came and seemingly changed the course of your life, you probably had certain dreams and goals. Even though you may have had challenges before —financial struggles, relationship troubles, or health issues—you still probably had in mind specific changes you wanted to make or a direction you wanted your life to take. But how do you feel now that you’re living day-to-day, not knowing what tomorrow will bring? Do you feel as if all your dreams have been shattered, and do you question how, in the face of this challenge, you can ever get your life back on track? 

Take courage! God has a definite plan for your life! You are uniquely made with specific gifts and abilities to fulfill His purposes. This crisis may have changed your circumstances, but you have God’s promise that His plan for you will be accomplished (see Philippians 1:6). 

God knows all about you. Like David said in Psalm 139:16, God saw you and made plans for your life before you were born. He knew what challenges you would face and what your needs would be before you even took your first breath. This challenge didn’t take Him by surprise. Though life as you knew it has been disrupted and your path seems unclear, you can trust that everything is right on track according to His will. God is at work in you to accomplish His divine plan. Begin to see your life through His eyes and you will see that your future is full of promise! 

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1. What would you like to do with your life? How has this life storm changed your dreams and goals? 
2. How do you think God could use this time in your life to bring about His purposes in you? In what ways do you think God may want to use your life? 
3. Pray and thank God for His perfect plan for your life. Ask Him to reveal it to you as you move toward rebuilding your life. Be sure to thank Him for His faithfulness and ability to fulfill those plans. Then watch and pray as He makes those plans a reality, in His perfect timing. Above all…never give up! 

Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 13:13, Joshua 24:15, Matthew 6:33, Colossians 3:14, 1 Thessalonians 5:11

Valuing What Matters Most

“I lost everything I had, but I still have my family. And that’s what matters most.” This was one of the most recurring quotes from survivors of Hurricane Katrina in 2005. Crises tend to disrupt or destroy a lot of things that are valuable to us, but there are some things that even the most destructive disaster could never take away: your relationship with God and His love for you, and the love you share with family and friends. It’s that enduring love—even the love for a loved one you’ve lost—that matters most. 

When dealing with difficult circumstances, it’s easy to take that love for granted. In our pain, anger, and frustration we can either withdraw from family and friends, lash out against them, or fail to realize their need for our support. But just as your family and friends need you to care for them when facing difficult circumstances, you also need them. In his letter to the Colossians, Paul wrote, “that their hearts may be encouraged, being knit together in love” (Colossians 2:2). 

Have you recently told your spouse, children, or other family members and friends that you love them? If not, be sure to tell them today. But don’t stop there. It’s not enough to just say I love you. We have to show love through our actions (see 1 John 3:18). Talk about the crisis together, listen to each other, cry together, comfort each other, and pray for each other. And whenever tragedy and loss cast a shadow on your spirit, remember the importance of valuing what matters most…each other. 

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1. When tragedy or troubles hit our lives, it often makes us think about what’s important. What has this trial taught you about your priorities regarding your relationship with God? Your family? Would you say you have your priorities straight? What changes do you think are necessary? 
2. Proverbs 3:6 (TLB) says, “In everything you do, put God first, and he will direct you and crown your efforts with success.” Make a new or renewed commitment today to put God first in your life. Spend time with Him every day in prayer and Bible reading. If you’re not already an active member of a Bible-teaching church, find one today, attend regularly, and get involved. Seek to honor Him in your relationships, your time, and your material resources. 
3. Have you spent quality time building your relationship with your spouse? With your children? First John 3:18 (TLB) says, “Let us stop just saying we love people; let us really love them, and show it by our actions.” What are some practical ways you can show your spouse and children (or extended family and friends) that you really love them? How can you use this time now to build family relationships? 

Scriptures: 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, Romans 12:10, Colossians 3:12, 1 Thessalonians 5:11

Comforting Others Who Grieve

One of the ways to ease the pain of tragedy and loss is to reach out and comfort someone else who is hurting. Comforting others is one way to look tragedy directly in the eye and profess that we are not helpless victims. It’s a way of reaffirming God’s power in our lives. Great things happen when we talk to others about God’s love, His compassion, and His faithfulness. When we speak His promises to others, it not only ministers to the hearers, it ministers to us, causing our own faith in God to come alive. Additionally, it moves our focus from our problems to the needs of someone else. 

Reaching out to others is also a great way to build strong friendships and a support system. You can comfort, encourage, and pray for one another. For instance, do you know a single adult or parent who might feel alone and overwhelmed? What about an elderly person or couple isolating alone? Sometimes God allows us to go through trials so we can better understand the pain of others and comfort them with the same comfort we have received from Him. 

But be careful not to overload yourself or short-circuit your grief by concentrating on others’ needs prematurely. Pray about it first, and ask God whether it’s time. Then ask Him to direct your energies and desires to reach out to others as you journey toward healing. The rewards will be immeasurable (see Matthew 5:7)! 

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1. Do you know someone who is also hurting as a result of a life storm? What can you do to help heal that person’s hurt? Here are a few ideas: You can talk with that person. Pray for him or her. Share something from God’s Word, such as a promise or a Bible verse, that would provide comfort and encouragement. Or, just listen and understand what they’re going through. 
2. In his letter to the Romans, Paul wrote, “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep” (Romans 12:15). Why is it important to have a support system—people you can talk to, pray with, and even cry with—during difficult times? 
3. Remember to lift up the needs of someone else whenever you bring your needs before the Lord in prayer. 

Scriptures: James 1:5, Psalms 37:23, Proverbs 16:16, James 3:13-17

Making Tough Decisions

When dealing with challenging times we’re not always sure how to react. We want to say and do all the right things, but in our human weakness and heartache we often fall short of what we had in mind. We may say things we didn’t mean or do things that only make matters worse. 

Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” Have you acknowledged God in your current circumstances and in the decisions you have to make? Or, are you relying on your own instincts for how to handle things? God gives wisdom generously and graciously when we turn to Him and ask. He promises to give you wisdom and to guide you if you will just ask. Proverbs 3:13 says, “Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding.” 

Wisdom will enable you to honor God in everything you say and do regarding your circumstances. Wisdom will safely guide you in every decision you have to make. And wisdom will help move you and your family toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. 

Taking back your life

1. What are some of the tough decisions you are facing? Psalm 32:8 says, “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you.” Have you asked God to guide you in making your decisions? 

2. The following Scriptures show some of the ways in which God imparts His wisdom: 

Through the Bible – Psalm 119:105: “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” 

Through wise counselors (could be a pastor, Christian counselor, or a godly friend or relative) – Proverbs 24:6: “For by wise guidance you can wage your war, and in abundance of counselors there is victory.” 

Through prayer – Jeremiah 33:3: “Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.” 

Through the Holy Spirit – Romans 8:14: “For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God.” 

Through your spirit – Isaiah 30:21: “And your ears shall hear a word behind you saying, ‘This is the way, walk in it,’ when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left.” 

3. Pray and ask God for His wisdom and guidance. Ask Him what He would have you to do in each decision you are facing, and make clear the path He wants you to take.

Scriptures: Psalms 143:8, Isaiah 30:21, John 10:27, Revelation 3:20

Tuning in to God’s Voice

Did you know that amidst the noise of everyday life, God speaks to you? He speaks to you throughout the day and into the night. Are you listening? Can you hear His voice? Because you are His own, He wants to impart His peace, joy, and love to your heart…if you will listen. 

But what does it mean to listen to God? First, listening to God involves spending time with Him regularly, where you are free of interruptions and distractions and can hear Him. For instance, you can find a quiet room or a quiet place in a park. During this “quiet time,” make a conscious effort to listen to God speak as you read His Word and as you pray. 

Secondly, take some time to think over what you have heard Him say. What does He want you to know or do? What life changes does He want you to make? In what areas does He want you to grow? Finally, listening to God involves having a teachable spirit and a willingness to obey what He has told you. 

God is not limited, however, to speaking to you only in your quiet time. He wants you to tune in to His voice from the moment you open your eyes until you shut them again each night. Listen for Him in the beauty of His creation, in a raging storm, and in your current life storm. Listen for Him through the people He may send your way. And listen for His voice in your spirit as you journey through each day. He loves to speak to you, His beloved child, to reveal His wisdom, direction, and will for your life. He’s speaking to you at this very moment. Are you listening? 

Taking back your life

1. When you talk to God in prayer, do you take the time to listen for His responses? Why is it important to listen to His voice throughout each day? 
2. Have you been tuned in to God’s voice lately? If so, what is God saying about your life or current circumstances? If not, you can tune in to His voice today. God says in Jeremiah 29:13, “You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.” 
3. Seek the Lord today. Pray and ask Him to open your spiritual ears so that you may be tuned in to His voice at all times, enabling you to stay in the center of His will for your life. 

Scriptures: Romans 8:32, Psalms 68:19, 2 Corinthians 3:5, Ephesians 3:20-21

Dependence on Him

Your family and friends depend on you, and you depend on them. You look to them to be there for you in good times and bad, and they look to you for the same loyalty and support. But face it, family members can sometimes fail or disappoint each other, and friends can sometimes let each other down. There is a friend, however, who will never fail anyone who places his or her utmost faith in Him, and that friend is God revealed in the person of Jesus Christ. Will you depend on Him in this, your time of need? He is a friend unlike any other. He is your everything—all-powerful, all-knowing, and ever-present. And because He loves you, He wants you to depend on Him completely. 

To depend on someone completely, you must have faith in his abilities and character. Faith is an unconditional, dependent trust in another. The more you depend on the Lord, the more you will experience His intimate, loving friendship. You will find God is a trustworthy friend who can be taken at His word. For instance, you can depend on Him for peace. He promises to give you peace that passes all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Depend on Him for joy. He promises to give you joy unspeakable and full of glory (1 Peter 1:8). Depend on Him for strength. He promises to strengthen you (Isaiah 41:10). Depend on Him for safety. He can hide you under His wings (Psalm 91:4). Depend on Him for everything. He will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:19). 

Taking back your life

1. How can the pain and turmoil caused by difficult circumstances force us to depend on God? 
2. How does knowing that you can count on the dependability of God make your circumstances bearable? 
3. Make a commitment to the Lord to get to know Him better. Set up a daily quiet time that consists of prayer and Bible reading, and ask Him to keep you mindful of your commitment to spend time with Him every day. Pray that through your personal times together He will establish Himself to be your most intimate, loving, and faithful friend. 

Scriptures: Psalms 27:14, Proverbs 16:9, Proverbs 16:33, Proverbs 19:21

Waiting with Patience

One thing we can learn when a crisis, life storm, or tragedy strikes is that we cannot control our lives. We can control how we react and respond when faced with a trial, but we cannot control our circumstances. As we go about our daily lives and get settled into familiar routines, we may think we know what tomorrow will bring, and make plans accordingly, but things do not always turn out as planned. From time to time, a struggle or challenge will come along and disrupt everything. It is in those instances that we come to realize we are not in control. 

The Bible says, “We can make our plans, but the final outcome is in God’s hands” (Proverbs 16:1 TLB). God is in control. We must acknowledge His authority over all human affairs, which include our lives and our circumstances. He has everything in perfect order and accomplishes His purposes and plans in our lives in His perfect timing. 

Still, it has to be hard to be patient when your whole life has been disrupted and you want to regain a sense of normalcy. But you cannot rely on your plans or timing to make it happen. God’s plans for you and your family will be accomplished. It may take weeks, months, or even years. But be encouraged. God only wants what’s best for you. So don’t ever give up or allow frustration to rule in your heart. Trust God with your life and circumstances, and wait on the Lord with patience. Wait, watch…and pray. 

Taking back your life

1. What does it mean to wait on the Lord? Why is it important to wait with patience? 
2. Discuss with your family or friend how you can apply Proverbs 16:1 (above) to your current circumstances. 
3. Pray together (or alone) and ask God to help you release your circumstances to Him and His timing. Be sure to thank Him for working through your situation, even when you cannot see Him moving, and for having your best interests at heart (see Romans 8:28). 

Scriptures: Psalms 71:8, Psalms 34:1-4, Psalms 66:20, 1 Corinthians 15:57

Celebrating the Victories

When going through hard times, we tend to look for a major breakthrough before we can celebrate or praise God for the victory. As we journey through our struggle, we may not see or recognize God’s hand at work in our lives along the way. We may miss all the little blessings and victories we receive each day. For instance, when you and your family share a laugh in the midst of sorrow, it is a blessing and should be recognized as God’s hand at work. When you begin to make plans for your future, when at one time you felt completely hopeless, it is a victory toward overcoming and winning the battle. Every victory, whether big or small, is a reason to celebrate! 

The Bible says, “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above” (James 1:17a). Every little step you take toward healing and toward getting your life back together is a good gift given by God, and is one more step toward victory. Has a family member opened up to you about his or her feelings? Praise God! Has someone spoken a kind word to lift your spirit today? Praise God! Have you made it successfully through another day? Praise God! 

When you praise God in the little things, as you struggle through difficult circumstances, you will experience God’s peace and joy in the midst of the battle. What’s more, the joy of the Lord will be your strength to go the distance and will encourage your family members to do the same! Remember, don’t wait until the battle’s over. Shout your praises now! 

Taking back your life

1. Psalm 103:1-2 says, “Bless the lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name! Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits.” Why is it important to acknowledge and thank God for every little blessing He gives during difficult circumstances? 
2. What are some of the victories you’ve already experienced during this difficult season? Encourage yourself to celebrate even the smallest victories by sharing your gratitude in a “gratefulness journal” and/or with family or friends. It’s a great reminder to self and others of God’s love, faithfulness, grace, and His presence in your life and circumstances. Remember, He is with you and for you! Pray and ask God to help you recognize His hand at work in all the little blessings along the way as you journey through this difficult time in your life.